Hashtag single life?

Every time I get lonely I get reminded that I'm lucky to not have a man baby following me around expecting me to take care of him.

My wages aren't being garnished because a man baby crashed my car a year ago.

My independence isn't at stake because a man baby doesn't have a real job and they can't take those dollars from him.

And you want to marry this man baby? You think that's a good idea? You were proposed to before there was a ring to propose with? And that isn't a red flag to you?

Have fun with your man baby.

This is why I can't take Christians seriously

Someone I know is getting divorced because he is "addicted" to porn. While obviously I don't (want to) know exactly how much porn he is watching, the incredibly conservative Catholic family he belongs to thinks watching ANY porn is an "addiction."

He then outs himself on Facebook, includes a shared infographic about porn statistics and why it is oh-so-bad. He doesn't mention the divorce online but I know it's happening.

Another conservative Catholic family member who loves to shove her beliefs down everyone's throat comments that she's "proud that he is able to face his addiction" and he responds with "I decided to stop being ashamed, if my story can help one man it's worth it."

Only a Christian can create a situation where guilt and shame changes their perception of reality, then they can use their "shameful" behavior to make themselves look like a martyr to ease their sense of shame.

 

Why not just accept that human beings have natural sexual urges, and that masturbation has always been part of human nature, instead of turning your life into a sick cycle of shame, guilt, and redemption that only your God can give you.

Unfriend.

That single life

I'm sad because I'm lonely.

I'm lonely because I can't find someone to fit my unrealistic expectations for a relationship. My list of requirements is long. My list of disqualifications is even longer.

When I do find someone they are already attached.

When I do find someone single, for example on a dating website, I can't get the courage to do something about it. I don't want to message them first because I'm terrified of rejection, even from a stranger sitting in front of a keyboard.

When I do find someone online that I'm interested in that actually messages me first, I'm terrified that responding will mean that they want to meet me. That it will be real. That it will fail.

This vicious circle of illogical thinking, insecurity, and fear is crippling.

Pretty sure the single cat lady life is the one I'm stuck in.

I wish I could get my shit together.

Did I seriously just see that white girl say that she didn't believe a black girl got pulled over for being black? In Milwaukee? Did that just happen? Did I read that right?

Dear many white friends on Facebook, please stop "hoping the officers stay safe" and calling people animals.

Yes, people are doing STUPID SHIT in Milwaukee right now, but they are still human beings. Everyone heard about the gas station was looted and set on fire but nobody is talking about how the owner of the gas station fired (into the air) to scare off black children and the racial tension at that gas station all summer. What looks like a random act of violence isn't random.

Can you all just admit that you don't get it? That you weren't there, you don't know the whole story, that this isn't about your white privilege and your judgements?