Hashtag single life?

Every time I get lonely I get reminded that I'm lucky to not have a man baby following me around expecting me to take care of him.

My wages aren't being garnished because a man baby crashed my car a year ago.

My independence isn't at stake because a man baby doesn't have a real job and they can't take those dollars from him.

And you want to marry this man baby? You think that's a good idea? You were proposed to before there was a ring to propose with? And that isn't a red flag to you?

Have fun with your man baby.

This is why I can't take Christians seriously

Someone I know is getting divorced because he is "addicted" to porn. While obviously I don't (want to) know exactly how much porn he is watching, the incredibly conservative Catholic family he belongs to thinks watching ANY porn is an "addiction."

He then outs himself on Facebook, includes a shared infographic about porn statistics and why it is oh-so-bad. He doesn't mention the divorce online but I know it's happening.

Another conservative Catholic family member who loves to shove her beliefs down everyone's throat comments that she's "proud that he is able to face his addiction" and he responds with "I decided to stop being ashamed, if my story can help one man it's worth it."

Only a Christian can create a situation where guilt and shame changes their perception of reality, then they can use their "shameful" behavior to make themselves look like a martyr to ease their sense of shame.

 

Why not just accept that human beings have natural sexual urges, and that masturbation has always been part of human nature, instead of turning your life into a sick cycle of shame, guilt, and redemption that only your God can give you.

Unfriend.

That single life

I'm sad because I'm lonely.

I'm lonely because I can't find someone to fit my unrealistic expectations for a relationship. My list of requirements is long. My list of disqualifications is even longer.

When I do find someone they are already attached.

When I do find someone single, for example on a dating website, I can't get the courage to do something about it. I don't want to message them first because I'm terrified of rejection, even from a stranger sitting in front of a keyboard.

When I do find someone online that I'm interested in that actually messages me first, I'm terrified that responding will mean that they want to meet me. That it will be real. That it will fail.

This vicious circle of illogical thinking, insecurity, and fear is crippling.

Pretty sure the single cat lady life is the one I'm stuck in.

I wish I could get my shit together.

Did I seriously just see that white girl say that she didn't believe a black girl got pulled over for being black? In Milwaukee? Did that just happen? Did I read that right?

Dear many white friends on Facebook, please stop "hoping the officers stay safe" and calling people animals.

Yes, people are doing STUPID SHIT in Milwaukee right now, but they are still human beings. Everyone heard about the gas station was looted and set on fire but nobody is talking about how the owner of the gas station fired (into the air) to scare off black children and the racial tension at that gas station all summer. What looks like a random act of violence isn't random.

Can you all just admit that you don't get it? That you weren't there, you don't know the whole story, that this isn't about your white privilege and your judgements?

So many douchebags.

Message: "yeah there was no way i was skipping over this one. we should get a coffee sometime"

 This one? Really? Are females on dating sites on a baggage carousel at the airport? You're a douchebag.

"Hi there doll face"

Hi there misogynist. That smirk in every single photo you have makes me want to punch you in the face.

"About Andy

Since women seem to know everything about a guy without even talking to them, why don't You tell Me something about myself. You know, we will never have a female president if women can't figure out how to start a conversation first."

Somehow I know without talking to you that you'll always be single.  

The Nightmare

Ten years ago this month I started my senior year of High School.

Since my middle and high school were in the same building, it was year number SIX of the same people, the same hallways, the same shit.

I still have nightmares that I'm in the final few months of my last semester and somehow I am failing a class suddenly and I'm a credit short for graduation. The scramble to keep myself from having to return to that hell hole for yet another semester or even another year makes me wake up in cold sweat.

I wasn't openly bullied, at least in the last few years. I was pointedly ignored by many people I thought were friends when I stopped trying to be a carbon copy of every "popular" person in school. Severe social anxiety, introversion, a strong strange streak and a love for weird art and drama club meant that friends were few and not to be trusted.

The nightmares have receded in the past few years, but for a while it was a recurring dream every month or two that I simply could not wake up from.

I see a Facebook group for my graduating class that I haven't been added to and think good. Fuck almost all of you. I never want to see 95% of you again.

What does Josh Duggar have to do to no longer be defended?

Holy shit, you guys. Holy shit.

The train wreck that is the Duggar family reputation keeps getting more and more explosive. I can't stop watching.

Not only did Josh Duggar diddle 5 girls when he was a teen, 4 of them his own sisters, but he allegedly cheated on his wife with a subscription to AshleyMadison.com ('alleged' despite hacked information including his home and billing address, birthday, name, and $986.76 worth of payments on 2 accounts...)

I burst out laughing when I saw the headline. This shit is hilarious.

No, someone getting hacked is not what's funny. It's because someone who preaches about family values and calls gay and trans people immoral child molesters has been exposed as an immoral child molester.

But the real hilarity is buried in comments on all of these articles. I'm astonished at how many people still are defending him and his battered reputation.

The only reason so many people give a shit about this asshole's marriage is because he was so determined to keep other people's marriages impossible.

It's in the past? His account was closed this May- right when the police report of his molestation became public. Not a coincidence.

...Still giggling about "Stop going josh past !"

LEAVE BRITNEY ALONE, SERIOUSLY YOU GUYS- er, I mean, Josh. Sorry.

Yes, the media does blow up crap to make a story- but a holier-than-thou asshole being exposed as a cheating scumbag is news, whether you're (somehow) still a fan of his or not.

This family hasn't been through enough until the millions of people they persecuted for years decide that they've seen enough.

Laaaawwwwd have meeeerrrrrcy! Leave them alone! The world's quickly approaching arrival in hell, carried by The Hand Of The Lord himself! We need live coverage from inside the basket! More cameras, more lights! What kind of wicker is this? We need a chemical analysis! Quickly! News!

Anyone can fake an account with someone else's name- but their home and verified billing address, full name, birthday, and nearly $1000 worth of charges to his credit card means that yes, it was him. Or he just so happened not to notice a thousand dollars missing from his accounts.

Wait- it's disgusting how 'they' are trying to destroy this guy?

Isn't it more disgusting that a "Family Values" lobbyist who works “to champion marriage and family as the foundation of civilization, the seedbed of virtue, and the wellspring of society,” is not only a child molester but an adulterer?

He was already destroyed. The people he's been attacking for years are now just pointing and giggling at how his true perversion has been exposed for the world to see.

Shame on anyone for reporting on this? Where's the shame thrown for the adulterer? The shame for the incestuous child molester? The shame for the sex offender? Since when is uncovering a bigot's own sins more shameful than the sins themselves?

I think you're confusing happy with incredibly amused. 

If you think that molesting children is somehow in our nature- that we're all born with the desire to do this- maybe you should see a psychologist because it really sounds like you're struggling with your own issues.

This guy's "sexual problem," which I'm relieved that you at least admit he has, would have been his own business if he hadn't spent years trying to regulate and condemn everyone else's sexual life.

Josh wasn't the only one who had information hacked. He just happens to be a high profile bigot who tries to pass laws to restrict the rights of other people's consensual, age appropriate, honest relationships.

He just happens to have accused trans people of wanting to molest children because they want to use the bathroom they feel most comfortable in. He accuses gay people of undermining family values. He lobbies for groups that want to pass laws about other people's bodies, relationships, and rights.

“Our family is like the epitome of conservative values,” Duggar said.

The news isn't only that he cheated, or that he molested children- it's that he's a closet pervert and a complete, utter hypocrite.

What does he have to do before his 'fans' stop defending him? Rape/murder/suicide? Bomb a church? Shoot the Pope? What is it going to take?

I'll be munching on popcorn waiting for it.